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  1. 2 hours ago, Dogsfevr said:

    Has Penny thyroid levels been checked 


    yeah she had all the basics done for a presentation like this and it was all normal. Unless it’s something really obscure her symptoms don’t match any of the obvious medical causes for anxiety.

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  2. On 15/01/2022 at 10:53 AM, Paul777 said:

    I'm so sorry you're going through this. 
    Behavioural issues like this can be so hard to correct. 
    Unfortunately it sounds like Penny will not ever be a happy confident dog. 

    Several years ago I bought a 10wo Rotti pup. He was a handful from the get-go. 
    He had chronic PICA so bad that I had to take him to toilet muzzled and on a lead. 
    He treated life as one big game and would not take me seriously unless I stood over him and read him the riot act. 

    Taking advice that dogs will often settle down by 18mo, I persevered with him. 
    At 16mo he triggered a permanent back injury. I could barely walk and needed to be in hospital. 
    Over three days I tried to find a kennel that could take him but as soon as I mentioned "60kg with behavioural issues" none were prepared to take him on. 

    By the 3rd day my health had deteriorated where my GP ordered me to hospital [as it turned out I was also suffering from diverticulitis and a lung infection] I had no other choice but to put him to sleep. [No way could I have sent him to the pound - he was my responsibility] 

    As hard as that was, although I loved the big lug, while laying in the hospital bed, I realised that I never really enjoyed him. He was just hard work. 
    Although putting him to sleep was terribly distressing [which he thought was a big game] I felt relief that a load had been lifted from my shoulders. 
    I did my best and gave him every chance.

    Sadly, sometimes our best efforts are not enough. 
    Once one has exhausted all avenues to rehabilitate, sending a dog to the rainbow bridge is the kindest act of all. 


    thanks for sharing your story Paul. It’s such a difficult situation. It really resonates with me. I feel so aware that we have no back up plan with her as she is so scared of other people she can’t be looked after by anyone else.

    Our daughter has been in hospital 300km away for nearly a month now and one of us has always had to stay home to care for Penny. It’s been really hard. It’s a big sacrifice to make. I’m also worried that one day we’ll be backed into a corner.

    sounds like you did everything for your big lad :cry:

     

     

    On 17/01/2022 at 9:37 AM, coneye said:

    It would really annoy the hell out of me to think that this breeder had conned me , possibly if it had been returned conned someone else and been paid twice ,, i honestly would get all the info together ,   get a letter from my vet explaining  what the dog had , how long ect ect ,, document it all together with a list of phone calls , letters ,  ect ect ,, pay a couple of hunfdred dollars more and take them to the small claims crt , no lawyers allowed , just you and them and hopefully a judge who see's the breeder for what they are

    I hear ya. I am really annoyed but I am also really burned out. I have had to block her as interacting with her was making my stress levels go through the roof. When we rang the department of fair trading they told us we would need to sue and I just don’t think I can go through the stress of that. I will still put in a complaint to the governing body. 

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  3. Hey guys, I just wanted to drop in with an update. I also appreciate your posts and responses even if I have not responded directly to all of them. 

     

    gosh it’s hard to know what to write. It’s been such a painful and difficult experience. I feel so much pressure to help her and get her going better but I feel like a mechanic without a tool box a lot of the time. I don’t know how far we can get and I’m trying to be realistic but also optimistic. I wish I could come here and say that I’ve got a plan and we’re doing great and I’ve found some deeper meaning from the whole experience but we’re not there yet. 

     

    The good news is that Penny is making progress. She’s confident enough in most parts of the house now. She is even opting to go into the front yard sometimes and the front yard is pretty scary because there can be people walking past and the sound of kids playing and noisy cars. She can now be in the same room as our son without feeling scared. 

     

    The most amazing thing happened two nights ago when I went to take our other dog for a walk and Penny decided that she wanted to come too! She actually did really quite well on the walk as it was late and no one was around. Other than this I don’t take her out more than a couple of times a week to secluded locations. If she gets stressed it can take her a couple of days to be ok again. 

     

    One of the most tricky things is that she is just so disinterested in food but this too has shown some improvement. When she does eat it’s like even the slightest noise will put her off. It means that when we give her her medication mixed in with some good quality wet food we all wait with bated breath for her to finish. Whilst I’m on this topic I want to say thank goodness for Big Pharma because her Fluoxetine has held the line for us. 

     

    Interestingly Penny has met up with her sister a couple of times. Her sister is from the same litter and they were together until they were five months old when Penny came to us. Her sister came to live in the same town one month later. But it’s really weird as it’s like they don’t know each other at all. Penny in particular just won’t even acknowledge her sister. I wouldn’t be surprised if they hadn’t seen each other since they were eight weeks but they lived together until they were five months. They first met back up after being separated for only one month and there was no acknowledgement between them. I just find it so strange. 
     

    Anyway I thought it was time to include a photo and it’s a pretty cute photo. This is Penny snuggled up to our big boy Brian.

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  4. 55 minutes ago, Kirislin said:

    I wonder if her transportation down to you might’ve terrified her and sort of imprinted on her brain. I don’t know how to describe it, but my puppy was a bit of a loner although liked trotting along with her outside I think, from what the breeder told me. 
    when I got him flown down he was terrified and also completely shut down.  He improved fairly quickly but there’s some things I notice about him and I wonder if his natural temperament along with a frightening experience of being flown to a strange place and a person he didn’t know, at a sensitive and impressionable age might’ve influenced his behaviour.

    do you think it’s possible something like this has affected your puppy too?


    I think the flight definitely did not help for sure but I just don’t think it’s the only thing going on. If it was a one off experience and she had been well socialised I would have expected her to bounce back quicker. Instead we’re nearly three months on and my son can’t get within three metres of her and my daughter cannot get within patting distance. She’s just so scared of people in general. 
    We have also met her litter mate and she is the same. We got them together and they were both so stressed that they didn’t even acknowledge each other’s presence.

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  5. Hey everyone. Just wanted to say that I do appreciate everyone’s input and wanted to give you all an update.

    Things turned very sour between us and the breeder. She has refused to send us vaccination papers and transfer of ownership papers.  She states:

    a) puppy has no issues and is normal.

    b) we have caused puppy’s issues

    c) she insinuates we are making it all up.

     

    She has also insinuated that puppy would be better off in a different home with people who know what they are doing.

    Because of these things I have lost all trust that the breeder has Penny’s best interests in mind and that she would do right by her.

    I also think the transport alone would be very traumatic for her. We went on a car trip with her a few weeks ago and vet prescribed alprazolam for her and she was still a wreck the entire time. 
    we have a really good relationship with our vet, she has cared for all our dogs. So when she told us that it would be kinder to euthanise Penny than send her back we took that advice seriously. As such we have decided to keep her. Making this decision has been a relief in itself as it’s allowed our family to gain acceptance for the situation. 

    The fluoxetine is helping and does allow her quality of life. It has also got her to the point where she can take some treats and therefore engage a bit better with behaviour mod. 
    I don’t know how things will go but we’ll just do our best for her. Her Fluoxetine dose has been increased to 30mg and our vet is organising for a behaviourist review which will most likely happen in the new year.

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  6. 19 hours ago, Rebanne said:

    So sorry this has happened to you. I've had a pup like this, I got her at 8 weeks. Saw her several times at the breeders first. This was many years ago. I knew she was on the timid side. She was a very unhappy dog and I relieved her pain when she was 21 months old. No drugs to help, that I knew of, all those years ago.

    Oh that’s so sad what a tough decision you had to make :(

  7. 19 hours ago, persephone said:

    ..and I fear this pup was sent to you without full disclosure :(
    What a shame - for everyone . 
    You are doing things well, I think. Just hope the drug works ..and I would also be contacting this breeder and asking some hard questions as to the conditions in which this pup was kept . It almost sounds as if it was either kept in a kennel situtaion with no socialisation - or is a puppy born with severe fear/anxiety . Can you tell us the type of dog if you don't want to be too specific ? Sighthound/retriever/toy/hound ..etc ? 


    She was raised indoors. The videos show her inside and in the backyard. They appear to be more rural than we are though. We live quite close to the centre of a regional city with the busyness that comes with that and this seems to be challenging for her. She is a hound but different breed to our other hound. 

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  8. 2 hours ago, jemappelle said:

    Gosh that is very sad for the pup and your family.  I think at this stage you have to give the fluoxetine time to work.  Is this breed normally outgoing?  Have you tried to do any basic training?  What happens if everyone is out of the house except for the pup's primary care giver?

     The breed is normally reserved with strangers which is why I was expecting some settling in time. But I have had a reserved dog before and this is quite different. 
    I have tried with some training but she usually won’t take treats. She normally won’t eat unless we place her food next to her on the lounge because she doesn’t feel comfortable anywhere else. I have done a lot of hand feeding with her but she has to be on the lounge or she won’t accept it. The vet said the Fluoxetine is to help her enough so we can start behavioural rehab. If it is just me in the house she will have the confidence to run from the lounge room to the door to the backyard if she needs to go to the toilet. Otherwise she is just curled up on the lounge or if people are in the lounge she hides in a nearby bedroom.

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  9. TLDR: 

    Our pedigree puppy has major fears and is struggling to adapt to our home. 

     

    Six weeks ago we bought a 5 month old puppy from a registered breeder. We had been in correspondence with the breeder explaining about our situation and lifestyle and talking about the pup we would be getting and what she is like. She was described to us as playful and outgoing. Due to her location and COVID restrictions it was not possible for us to visit beforehand. The breeder sent us photos and videos and she seemed to be playful and affectionate. I thought that due to her breed and being an older puppy there would be a period of adjustment for her. I wasn’t expecting her to instantly adore us. I was expecting we would have to build a relationship with her. I told the breeder our plans to settle her in over the first week and the breeder sort of indicated I was overthinking it and that she’d be fine. 
    When we brought her home she was completely shut down. It was like she was frozen in place. She would not move. She was clearly terrified. It was a Friday and over the next two days we could not get her eat and drink as she was so stressed. On Sunday we had to syringe her water as she became dehydrated. 

    I updated the breeder and let her know that puppy was having a hard time. She told me that we need to give her three months to properly settle in. She stated she would begin to relax after three weeks. I was a bit shocked as this time frame had not been mentioned to us before and this was not what we had been told to expect. 

    Over the next five weeks there continued to be little improvement in her anxiety levels. She was scared of us, scared to be anywhere other than her little safe place on the lounge. She would run out of the room if we came in.

    We tried to give her as much space as she needed, tried to help her feel safe. Many times throughout the day we would throw treats in her direction from a distance although most of the time she didn’t eat them. 

    She has gradually become more comfortable with me. She is still unsure of my hubby and she is still scared of our 19year old children who have been very calm and non-intrusive with her. She still runs away from them and does not want them to be close to her. 

    Last week I noticed she had urinary urgency and we took her to the vet who diagnosed stress induced cystitis. Vet was very concerned about her anxiety and stress levels and asked me a lot of questions about how she’s been coping. She advised us to start an antidepressant (fluoxetine) and commence using an adaptil collar. The collar has helped and time will tell if the fluoxetine helps.

    We have made some very small progress with her this week. She is not running away from situations as much. She loves our other dog and she lights up when she sees him. She is still very scared in the house. She will run if she hears a car door close on the street. She still does not like to be in any proximity to the children. She will seem to be ok with hubby unless he is moving or making any noise.

    I am worried for her that she will have a life filled with stress and anxiety and I sometimes feel overwhelmed about the prospect of the extensive rehabilitation that she seems to need for her to cope with changes to her environment and with people in general. 

    I have done behavioural rehab with previous rescue dogs and I got those dogs with full disclosure. I know that it can be a long difficult road and it wasn’t something we were expecting to face with this puppy. I am really hoping that the medication allows her mind to calm enough that we can begin to make some grounds with counter conditioning and help her to feel safe. I feel for her and I also feel for our family as all our joy about welcoming a new puppy into our family has been replaced with concern for her and her ability to adapt. 

    It’s just a really sad situation and I don’t know what to do.

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    I am happy to take your feedback on the questionnaire, or answer any questions via the email address provided. Or even PM here. Alternatively, I humbly suggest that if you want to complete the survey that you do so before reading any comments in this thread. This is just simply because reading other people's thoughts on the study can bias responses :)

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  11. There is no get out of jail free card - if you know there is an issue with a puppy you say so BEFORE THE PUP GOES HOME. If you don't you break the law and its also a pretty shabby way to treat a puppy buyer.

    yip. Whether or not the pup was sold for breeding is also beside the point. If the bite is so bad that the teeth piece the roof of the mouth then then the pup was not fit for sale.

    Of course it was fit for sale. Would you knock it on the head?

    What should have happened is that the issue with the mouth should have been advised.

    No it wasn't. If the puppy needs surgery to be comfortable as is the case here, it should not have been sold. It should have been either kept by the breeder to see if it improves, had surgery to remove the canines and sold with full disclosure, or discounted and sold with full disclosure.

    I agree.

  12. I would have thought the average GSD would have more prey drive (desire to hunt, chase, catch other animals) than your average mastiff, but I could be wrong.

    Also, you have to remember that when mastiffs were used for hunting, they were used to hold the quarry, they weren't meant to kill it, or bite to kill.

  13. Leonberger, Newfoundland, Mastiff come to mind. Or look into the Livestock guardians.

    However, I would never rely on any dog to protect you just because of its breed. Unless you have specifically trained your dog in protection, you just can't know for sure how it would react in a situation like that.

    I also think that if you don't want it to chase possums, then the easiest and most assured way is to have it sleep indoors at night.

  14. Del has been pretty good with the vet bills over the years. But she did have a big operation last year, and at the end of last year she began her course of Cartrophen injections (which after the first few need to happen every 3 months, or sometimes more for the rest of her life). So I guess that will increase the vet bills quite a bit. I am guessing they will increase anyway as she is into her senior years now. But don't tell her that, she's still adamant that she's a puppy.

  15. yeah - it's an interesting discussion ...

    I do agree with the personal space thing , and from the bits I've read from mark Singer .. cuddles/being on furniture etc are all fine , provided the initiation comes from the human , not the dog.

    isn't it just 'good manners' ?

    In most cases your dog is not trying to dominate you

    In most cases your dog is not looking to 'dominate' you, in actual fact it is rare. Your dog is only reacting to the way you interact with it. You teach your dog how to react with you, family members, and visitors. Be a leader your dog can respect by being consistent with discipline, and learn to read your dogs intent when interacting with it. Understand the rules of controlling personal space and assertive behaviours, and I assure you, you will gain a lot more respect from your dog.

    Dominance is rare in the same way Big Foot is rare.

  16. Clicker and marker word are in many respects the same as they are both secondary reinforcement. However, they each have their advantages and disadvantages.

    For instance, the clicker is fantastic for precision, consistency, and it is much easier to use along with commands. For example, if I am making a noise to get my dog's attention, and I want to mark that moment they give me their attention, it can be a little tricky if you're using a verbal marker to get the timing really spot on.

    The marker word is fantastic because you have it with you whenever you need it and it is hands-free. Problems can come with it being less than distinct, and with keeping it sounding consistent.

    Solution: use both!

  17. I just spoke to her & the good news is that the little guy is home & has just wagged his tail. He hasn't eaten or gone to the toilet, so she is taking him in for an ultrasound. Obviously was'nt a Bull terrier, more a Mastif x as she said it was the biggest dog she had ever seen & would have weighed about 50 kilos...so all she could do was jump on it's back & try to strangle it, while also trying to get it to open it's jaws. Eventually it dropped her dog & the friend with her quickly put it over a fence. The dog has been taken t the pound.

    So glad he is home Sheena.

    such a terrible ordeal for both dog and owner :(

  18. Scootaloo, my understanding of a break stick is that it's a stick (broom handle.. whatever you've got) that you shove sideways through the dog's mouth to prise open its jaws. I'm not sure how easy it would be to do after seeing how fast the dogs moved when Justice was attacked by a staffy. Even if I hadn't been frozen in shock, there's no way I could have gotten something like that in the other dog's mouth.

    Oh ok, that's different to what I was imagining! I thought it was a special kind of stick that you smack them with somehow...for some reason. Yeah for sure, that would definitely require some skill. And presence of mind (difficult if it's your dog being attacked icon_smile_mad.gif ).

    I know a bullet would do the trick pretty quickly but it's not very legal to be walking around with a gun. eek1.gif (for good reason!)

    I don't know if it would. Usually when dogs fight they move incredibly quickly. I don't know how anyone manages to grab their legs let alone accurately aim a gun at one of them.

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