Justice For K9's

[yap]

I,m just looking for answers, My heart can't take this, Should a so called vet be allowed to get away with murdering your child?-k9.

All the B*% did was handed me meds, told me to give extremely high doses & see me back in a week.

My child endured an extremely slow cruel exruciating death that no-body has been able to help us with justice.

Witnessing this, beleive me, my whole world is changed, AM I THE ONLY ONE?

When a real CARING vet should & will monitor CLOSELY & not send them home to die.

I am DESTROYED inside & out, ( I now know how those army guys come back traumitised a CHANGED person FOREVER) feel.

These B*% have destroyed good peoples lives forever & GET AWAY WITH IT & KEEP GETTING AWAY WITH IT!! The vet board has turned a BLIND EYEGod I now just want to be with my girl. ;) :D

My heart will give way soon, I can't do this.

[poodlefan]

Weren't you suing the vets for negligence?

[yap]

Weren't you suing the vets for negligence?

How do you get a case if the vet board turns a blind eye?

[poodlefan]

Weren't you suing the vets for negligence?

How do you get a case if the vet board turns a blind eye?

You get a solicitor to file a claim in Court. You asked for recommendations for one in your last thread.

Honestly though, some grief counselling might be a better use of your money.

Edited December 17, 2010 by poodlefan

[Diva]

Yap, I think you need to see a good grief counsellor or other professional to help you through this. Please.

[oakway]

A dog is not a child.

You need to seek medical attention.

[yap]

Yap, I think you need to see a good grief counsellor or other professional to help you through this. Please.

I have been seeing a greif counciller but I know it's done no good.

I am very attatched to my k9s so maybe child not to you, a very big part of my family to me

like i said "AM I THE ONLY ONE THAT FEELS THIS ATTATCHEMENT?"

Edited December 17, 2010 by yap

[Diva]

I am very attatched to my k9s so maybe child not to you, a very big part of my family to me

The fact that I'd like to see you get help with your pain doesn't mean my dogs are not a big part of my family, you are not the only one to feel such an attachment, or suffer such a loss.

Never mind, obviously best I leave you to it.

Edited December 17, 2010 by Diva

[Staranais]

Weren't you suing the vets for negligence?

How do you get a case if the vet board turns a blind eye?

You get a solicitor to file a claim in Court. You asked for recommendations for one in your last thread.

Honestly though, some grief counselling might be a better use of your money.

Yes. It sounds like you aren't coping.

Having a dog die sucks. It really, really does. Doesn't matter if it was anyone's fault or just a mistake, it still sucks. But at the end of the day, you need to learn to live with it.

[mumof3]

I,m just looking for answers, My heart can't take this, Should a so called vet be allowed to get away with murdering your child?-k9.

All the B*% did was handed me meds, told me to give extremely high doses & see me back in a week.

My child endured an extremely slow cruel exruciating death that no-body has been able to help us with justice.

Witnessing this, beleive me, my whole world is changed, AM I THE ONLY ONE?

When a real CARING vet should & will monitor CLOSELY & not send them home to die.

I am DESTROYED inside & out, ( I now know how those army guys come back traumitised a CHANGED person FOREVER) feel.

These B*% have destroyed good peoples lives forever & GET AWAY WITH IT & KEEP GETTING AWAY WITH IT!! The vet board has turned a BLIND EYEGod I now just want to be with my girl. ;) :D

My heart will give way soon, I can't do this.

OK. Yap, I can understand that you are very upset, and that you are grieving the loss of a much loved pet, under difficult circumstances. And I've been through some pretty tough times myself, and it wasn't a pet and the circumstances were extremely, soul destroyingly difficult.

Grief is a real, physiological response which you must work through one step and a time. Everyone does it differently. The good news, is that grief does end. This vet has not destroyed your life. Human beings have the faculty to overcome much more grief than this. You will smile again, in the future, when you are ready, IF YOU ALLOW YOURSELF. If you feel your grief is not changing over time, and progressing, then with all the love and good will in the world, I implore you to get some help either from a counsellor or from a grief support group of some sort. Talking to other people who understand what you are going through helps immensely. This trauma is not the same as a soldier coming back from OS. Nor is it the same as losing a human child. I personally know a solder who had to clean up the remains of his best mate. Actually, a few of his best mates. And I know a couple who said goodbye to their 9 year old daughter at the roadside while she passed away before medical help could arrive. And these people are moving through their grief and on with their lives, as you must also do, in order to honour your beloved dog. You and they and I will never forget, but it will hurt less as time goes by. Would your dog want you to spend your whole life grieving? Or would they rather see you happy? You may never be the same again, but you will be stronger, wiser - and this is the special gift that your pet, that loving your pet, has left with you for your whole life. Embrace it, move through your grief and seek justice when you are stonger.

[Guest RANDCMOORE31]

I understand how devastated, shocked and probably angry you feel - at losing your beloved girl so unexpectedly. But - I don't think that trying to get the vet to pay for what may have been a mistake - is going to make you feel better - even if you do manage to get justice. It's not going to bring your girl back. The best you can do for yourself - is focus on remembering how much - and all the reasons why - you loved your girl so much - and how much she added to your life - and all the great memories you have of spending time together. If you remember with love and fondness - it may help overcome the anger and shock and devastation that you are currently feeling.

[yap]

I,m just looking for answers, My heart can't take this, Should a so called vet be allowed to get away with murdering your child?-k9.

All the B*% did was handed me meds, told me to give extremely high doses & see me back in a week.

My child endured an extremely slow cruel exruciating death that no-body has been able to help us with justice.

Witnessing this, beleive me, my whole world is changed, AM I THE ONLY ONE?

When a real CARING vet should & will monitor CLOSELY & not send them home to die.

I am DESTROYED inside & out, ( I now know how those army guys come back traumitised a CHANGED person FOREVER) feel.

These B*% have destroyed good peoples lives forever & GET AWAY WITH IT & KEEP GETTING AWAY WITH IT!! The vet board has turned a BLIND EYEGod I now just want to be with my girl. ;) :D

My heart will give way soon, I can't do this.

OK. Yap, I can understand that you are very upset, and that you are grieving the loss of a much loved pet, under difficult circumstances. And I've been through some pretty tough times myself, and it wasn't a pet and the circumstances were extremely, soul destroyingly difficult.

Grief is a real, physiological response which you must work through one step and a time. Everyone does it differently. The good news, is that grief does end. This vet has not destroyed your life. Human beings have the faculty to overcome much more grief than this. You will smile again, in the future, when you are ready, IF YOU ALLOW YOURSELF. If you feel your grief is not changing over time, and progressing, then with all the love and good will in the world, I implore you to get some help either from a counsellor or from a grief support group of some sort. Talking to other people who understand what you are going through helps immensely. This trauma is not the same as a soldier coming back from OS. Nor is it the same as losing a human child. I personally know a solder who had to clean up the remains of his best mate. Actually, a few of his best mates. And I know a couple who said goodbye to their 9 year old daughter at the roadside while she passed away before medical help could arrive. And these people are moving through their grief and on with their lives, as you must also do, in order to honour your beloved dog. You and they and I will never forget, but it will hurt less as time goes by. Would your dog want you to spend your whole life grieving? Or would they rather see you happy? You may never be the same again, but you will be stronger, wiser - and this is the special gift that your pet, that loving your pet, has left with you for your whole life. Embrace it, move through your grief and seek justice when you are stonger.

I just can't see an end to my greiving, I know Iwon't be able to see it now but when will it end

[mumof3]

I,m just looking for answers, My heart can't take this, Should a so called vet be allowed to get away with murdering your child?-k9.

All the B*% did was handed me meds, told me to give extremely high doses & see me back in a week.

My child endured an extremely slow cruel exruciating death that no-body has been able to help us with justice.

Witnessing this, beleive me, my whole world is changed, AM I THE ONLY ONE?

When a real CARING vet should & will monitor CLOSELY & not send them home to die.

I am DESTROYED inside & out, ( I now know how those army guys come back traumitised a CHANGED person FOREVER) feel.

These B*% have destroyed good peoples lives forever & GET AWAY WITH IT & KEEP GETTING AWAY WITH IT!! The vet board has turned a BLIND EYEGod I now just want to be with my girl. ;) :D

My heart will give way soon, I can't do this.

OK. Yap, I can understand that you are very upset, and that you are grieving the loss of a much loved pet, under difficult circumstances. And I've been through some pretty tough times myself, and it wasn't a pet and the circumstances were extremely, soul destroyingly difficult.

Grief is a real, physiological response which you must work through one step and a time. Everyone does it differently. The good news, is that grief does end. This vet has not destroyed your life. Human beings have the faculty to overcome much more grief than this. You will smile again, in the future, when you are ready, IF YOU ALLOW YOURSELF. If you feel your grief is not changing over time, and progressing, then with all the love and good will in the world, I implore you to get some help either from a counsellor or from a grief support group of some sort. Talking to other people who understand what you are going through helps immensely. This trauma is not the same as a soldier coming back from OS. Nor is it the same as losing a human child. I personally know a solder who had to clean up the remains of his best mate. Actually, a few of his best mates. And I know a couple who said goodbye to their 9 year old daughter at the roadside while she passed away before medical help could arrive. And these people are moving through their grief and on with their lives, as you must also do, in order to honour your beloved dog. You and they and I will never forget, but it will hurt less as time goes by. Would your dog want you to spend your whole life grieving? Or would they rather see you happy? You may never be the same again, but you will be stronger, wiser - and this is the special gift that your pet, that loving your pet, has left with you for your whole life. Embrace it, move through your grief and seek justice when you are stonger.

I just can't see an end to my greiving, I know Iwon't be able to see it now but when will it end

It'll end when you are ready. When you let it end, and when you have done the work. When you have allowed the grieving process to work. It will end. It should change. Day 7 should feel different from Day 1. Day 14 will be different again. If it is changing, then no matter how much it hurts, it is normal and you are ok. If it gets stuck, if the process stops and day 14 feels the same as day 5, then there is a problem and you do need help. The biggest thing for me, was giving myself permission to be happy again. That took about 2 or 3 months.

Keep a journal of how you feel every day, and every day try to do something to bring a little light into your life. A walk. Watch the sunrise. Do something physical. Physical movement helps incredibly. You go from being incapable of doing anything, to being able to eat, then perhaps you can spend a little more time out of bed. Brush your hair and get dressed properly every day. Go through the motions of life. Eventually it will start to feel a little less surreal. You won't want the company of people you don't know well for quite some time and you may feel disconected. I still do. But I have joy in my life again, and I am happy. I'm just deeper than some other people and I just can't related to some people. It's been 4 years.

One day, you might feel like being happy. Give yourself permission. You will shine again - brighter than before.

[Odin-Genie]

A dog is not a child.

You need to seek medical attention.

A dog is not a child but a dog can be as precious as a child. Mine certainly are.

Yap, this is a terrible thing to happen. But please see a grief councellor as others have suggested.

[Staff'n'Toller]

Yap, if you joined when this first happened, in September, and you still feel there is no way out of your grief and it is no better, please see your Doctor, you may need to see a professional higher up than a counsellor.

[stormie]

Yap I'm sorry to hear you are still struggling so hard with the death of your dog. The bond we feel with them can be so amazingly strong, so to lose them really can leave a big hole in your life.

Unfortunately it's a difficult fact of life that our pets get sick and even with the very best of care from vets, specialists, ourselves, there is nothing which can be done to stop them crossing the bridge. When it's their time, it's their time.

I understand with the grief you are feeling that you are looking for someone to blame. But it just may be that it was your beautiful dog's time to go and nothing could be done to stop this.

My knowledge of the Vets Surgeons Board is that they generally er on fighting for the client. Rather than turning a blind eye, it just may be that they have investigated and found your vet did nothing wrong. If there was any suspicion that your vet's actions resulted in your dogs death, they would most definitely be taking things further.

It sounds like it's possible the condition and treatments have not been fully explained to you which if this is the case, I feel for you. It would be an awful feeling to not understand why your pet is no longer around. Perhaps it would also help to have someone explain the full details to you of what happened clearly, so you understand exactly what happened and why?

I also agree with seeking some grief counseling to help you through this. My boy is like my other half and I know when it's his time I am going to find it very difficult as well.

Edited December 17, 2010 by stormie

[raz]

See a Doctor, lovey. We all go through this grief shit and it's really really horrible (isnt it just the worst thing, lovey) but whether it be a two legged or 4 legged friend, you need to speak to someone. It really will help in the long run

[Tapferhund]

A dog is not a child.

You need to seek medical attention.

Very cruel and heartless response Oakway. We KNOW our dogs are not human children but they are our 'family' none the less. Most on here view their dogs as their furKIDS and we ALL suffer the same grief in losing a beloved pet as we do a human relative. There is also NO TIME LIMIT on grief.

Edited December 17, 2010 by Tapferhund

[monique.c]

When you lose someone you love it does feel like you will never be happy again but it will happen. One of my best friends (human) was killed in June and at the time all I could do was cry pretty much all day, then it got to just crying whenever I though about him or he was mentioned, it slowly went down to not crying as much and now 6 months on, while I miss him everyday and wish he was still around I am dealing with my grief, when it happens though you feel like you will never be happy again and how could you possibly every have fun or laugh again when they aren't here.

But I agree with other people, you might want to go talk to someone about it, because if it happened in September and you aren't feeling any better now it might be a good idea to talk to someone who is experienced in counselling people who have suffered a loss.

[mita]

yap, mumof3 has posted some truly great supporting advice. But I'm betting that the huge shroud of grief doesn't let the details get thro'.

Have you checked with a good doctor you trust, re possibility of now being depressed? That'd be terribly important, for a start.

I suggest you squirrel away mumof3's posts....& the others, too....so that you can come back to them later.

But first, please see a doctor & ask that question.

I bet your beloved doggie cared as much for you, as you did for her.

I bet, like with all our dogs, she could pick up on your moods & if you weren't well. That's when dogs just snuggle that bit more!

She can't care for you, in person, any more. But her spirit would want to make you feel better. So, to honour your lovely girl, go see the doctor and ask about depression.

Edited December 17, 2010 by mita